In my first blog post, I’ve decided to focus on our constant struggle for improvement, mainly our desire to better ourselves. Some of us make promises at the start of a new year, oftentimes-unrealistic ones depending on our financial, personal, social, and/or political situations. It seems that for some of us, what we promise ourselves at the start is suppose to make the New Year better than the previous one. But, it seems that we rarely celebrate what we’ve accomplished.
For instance, I just returned from a short, holiday visit with my parents, where I spent a few lazy days (but somewhat productive in my head) considering some of my plans for the upcoming year: (1) lead a healthier lifestyle, (2) call my parents more often, (3) try to ignore the office politics, (4) limit my Internet and gaming time, and (5) tackle my work-to-do list with efficiency and enthusiasm. I followed the ritual of planning to improve myself for a better year, but I didn’t spend any time reflecting on my previous year’s accomplishments.
You’re probably wondering why this matters. Perhaps your list is longer and a lot more intensive, and perhaps you’ve celebrated your achievements. But, for those of us who stress about the future, I wonder why we do this to ourselves in the first place. And, why do we feel the need to write mental lists at the start of a new year? It seems that we spend a lot of time contemplating what we’ve done wrong, what we could’ve done, and what we should do. My list reflects what some might perceive as faults, deficiencies, negative and/or obtrusive practices. Yet, I’ve managed to neglect all of the positive actions and outcomes, such as having built new friendships and strengthened existing relationships.
Why do some of us always worry about the future? Why do we fail to recognize the goals that we’ve met? There’s a song covered by Otis Heat called, “Que Será, Será,” which means, “What will be, will be.” Maybe some of us should stop worrying and make that our New Year’s resolution: “What will be, will be.”
** Otis Heat covering “Que Será, Será” at the Emerald of Siam in Richland, WA **
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