Super Autism Mom

This is the story of how a girl had a dream of becoming an artist, instead became a full time mother, and ended up finding her true purpose, in the face of her green eyed angel baby who couldn’t talk.

Super Autism Mom was born.

Green eyed angel is my almost 5 year old son with non-verbal Autism. I also have two older sons, who are not autistic, but share traits of social phobia and anxiety. Becoming an Autism mom has given me superpowers. (Yes, sometimes I wear the cape when I vacuum.) As a new mom, 14 years ago, I tried to mold my children into the perfection society taught me to admire. Really, to be everything I wasn’t. Let’s just say there were tantrums and tears…and not only from the toddlers. But, with my transformation into Super Autism Mom, a full decade later, I finally acquired superhero sight. To see my children in their own unique perfection as they are, and not as popular culture says they must be in order to be worthy. I only wish it hadn’t taken me so long. But that is the gift of Autism in our family. It completely blew down the walls of our “normal” life. When the dust settled, everything that mattered was clear. MY family. The world would just have to get used to us. We’re a little weird…and we are pretty awesome!

We moved back to Tri-Cities, 7 years ago, from Seattle. The irony is that where we really need to be now is in Seattle for better autism resources. But we love Tri-Cities. My husband and I grew up together near here. This dry desert, and farm land, and unobstructed big sky, fill me with a peacefulness that can only be described as home. So we’re staying.

In this chapter of my story, Autism is all consuming. Right now, life is a marathon therapy session. Autism could be a tragedy that breaks our family, or it can be where this story really gets interesting. I choose the latter…and I’m the writer…so I can totally do that. This story will have a happy ending, but before we get to that, the next several chapters are where the superhero (me) helps create an Autism social community for the green eyed angel. More Super Autism Moms are being gathered as you read this, and together they will create young Autism social groups that are affordable and stress-free, for their children with special needs. BUT also, it’s for the parents, who lets face it, bear the weight of the stigma of Autism in these early years. Curious stares and whispers are at every turn. Isolation is worse than the Autism itself sometimes. And…it leads to depression. If this story has a villain, isolation and its sidekick depression are the bad guys for sure! I have fought both of them, and they’re crafty and always plotting. But together these Super Autism Moms find strength, and they create what is missing from their lives. They defeat those villains for good. For green eyed angel and all like him, they’ll find a way to laugh and feel accepted and enjoy the joys of childhood and friendship that they all deserve.

The End…actually, just the beginning!

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Suzy Higley

Suzy Higley

Wife to my childhood sweetheart. Stay-at-home mom of 3 awesome boys, ages 14, 12, and 5. My youngest is non-verbal and has Autism. Currently starting a community with other Autism Moms called Better Together. More social learning opportunities for our kids on the spectrum are needed...and because I couldn't find them, I'm creating them. I also draw and paint on both paper and walls...and furniture. And speaking of furniture, I have a chronic furniture rearranging condition that I'm seeking help for. Not really...it's my favorite.

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  • I have another friend with an autistic son (I probably have several, actually, but she comes to mind most readily). One thing that I know drives her nuts is well-meaning people who forward e-mails or links or video clips about a “cure” or “the big breakthrough”. As if it was that easy! I think that as Super Autism Mom, one of your other super powers is keeping hope in check. Hat’s off to you, Suzy. You have a strength that those of us with non-autistic kids cannot imagine. So glad to see you’ll be contributing here at The Pot-Luck!

  • Suzy, we need to meet! I too am in the TC and have teen boys with a mix of spectrum issues. I also have a furniture rearranging obsession, lol!

  • Lou Galindo

    I love this, Suzy. You are not Super Autism Mom; you are Super Mom, period. xoxo!

  • We should! Lots in common 🙂

  • Thanks Cari. Yes, lots of people have advice…:/. But each kid is so different! It’s not the flu! 🙂

  • Thanks Lou!! 🙂