You’re (still) Good Enough

I felt like this post needed to be revisited.

“You are good enough.”

It is something that is easy for people to say; but it is something that is really hard to accept and, beyond accept, take to heart and believe about yourself.

But it’s true: You are good enough. And I am good enough. And while we’ll always keep trying to grow, and improve and become; we’ll still be good enough. Even if we don’t succeed at everything we set out to accomplish, we’re (you guessed it) good enough.

I grew up in an environment where my best did not ever seem to be good enough. (Don’t get me wrong I had very loving parents, they just wanted the best for my sister and me and to get the best they believed or at least lead us to believe that we needed to BE the best.) Report cards were great but there was usually a comment, half-joking, half-serious: “can’t you do better?”

Well, I suppose we can all do better at some things, but then we would do poorly at others. Because there are only 24 hours in the day. And we as engaged people have lots of passions, lots of relationships in our lives that we want (and need) to maintain, and lots of responsibilities. It can be a delicate balancing act.

When you are a perfectionist (whether due to nature or nurture) you can go through life feeling like a constant failure in terms of never being “good enough”. But, if you have given your best to the things you are doing – your best, not someone else’s idea of what your best should be – then you are good enough. So feel good (enough), because you are.

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Becca Lingley

Hi, I’m Becca. I am a huge fan of doing things that make the world a better place. Generally that’s through helping one person at a time but I also like helping nonprofits and ideas be successful. I enjoy working in education because personal and professional development is so fulfilling and helping others achieve that experience and develop their abilities is personally rewarding.I love buying local and being local, baking my own bread, supporting my community, reading resumes, living a healthy lifestyle, getting excited about and championing new ideas (coworking!). I love economic development, though I don’t know why I’m so obsessed with it. I’m an idealist and a believer, with a personal life goal of doing my part to make the world a better place.

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  • Jergrif73

    Great post Becca. I think this message is relevant to most, if not all people. Self acceptance is a toughy!

  • Kriste Colley

    Thanks, Becca. I need to read this every day!

  • Becca Lingley

    Me too, Kriste. I figure it’s like any habit – if I keep telling myself it enough, maybe eventually I’ll believe it 🙂

  • Becca Lingley

    It sure is a much more ideal way to live life. 🙂

  • Cari McGann McGee

    I used to get panic attacks because I was fearful of being tried and found wanting. LIke I wouldn’t live up to others’ expectations of me. Getting to the other side of those panic attacks helped me A LOT. After we isolated what caused them, when I’d feel one starting, I’d say to myself, “No one is judging you. You’re fine just as you are.” It’s SUCH an important thing to remember! Thanks for the post, Becca!