“I don’t know what is happening to me” I sniffed as the lawyer handed me a box of tissues. “You’re normal” he said kindly. Earlier that week another lawyer friend I’d consulted before making some big decisions had told me “You have the right to have a life.”
And the truth was: I didn’t have one, well not a very good one, at that moment. Several well-intentioned actions had collapsed and my life was out of control. I’d been living in the Tri-Cities for about nine months, and the time had come that I had to admit I couldn’t do it this way anymore.
I’d moved here with a company I’d worked for on the understanding that the move was a career advancement opportunity. Failing to refuse to move until I had the verbal discussions in writing, I was informed eight months in that I had misunderstood the communications; therefore, I quit my job. My then-husband had decided to pursue a different life; therefore, we were filing for divorce. The two properties I had back east just would not sell and were underwater- multiple attempts to work with the banks were ineffective; therefore, my lawyer recommended bankruptcy (the injury to my pride hurt: I had a high credit rating and no credit card debt, ugh). All three actions at once were incredibly overwhelming.
I literally hit the reset button on my life. What initially felt like the end of the world turned out to be a golden opportunity and an incredible blessing in disguise. For the first time in many years, I had a life.
And life is about choices.
I chose to come out of a tough situation a better person, stronger, healthier and truer to myself, values and beliefs. One of those decision points was determining where I would live. Nothing was holding me to the Tri-Cities; so I traveled back East and also back to my hometown in the Northeast, to see if it made sense to move either place.
But I found that revisiting the places from my past, while filled with familiarity, family and friends, wasn’t a path to my future. The Tri-Cities was. Almost from day one I have felt like a local here, and that I could be contributing member of this community. Even the people at the post office here were helpful and friendly. I’m so thankful I stayed. I love the Tri-Cities community and the welcoming sub-communities I have the privilege to participate in. Here I’ve had the opportunity to experience a better life then I had ever imagined for myself. I have found new family, friends and familiarity.
I share this story to encourage you: no matter what you are going through – you can choose your path forward. Life is about choices. And some choices feel like they might actually destroy you (believe me I know). But they don’t. Some of life’s hardest choices truly set you free. So I leave you with some of the best advice I’ve ever been given:
You have the right to have a life.
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